You should buy stock in 3M. Why? Because I write a lot of post it notes and I hope after reading this, you do too. A few years ago I was in a life group at our local church. I forget what study we were doing. It was probably a book about raising kids that was adapted from a marriage book; those are not great and I’ve read more than my fair share of them. If you know what I’m talking about, great. If not, I won’t call these authors out, but I will get on with my point.
During the group discussion, it was mentioned that doing small things for your spouse, consistently, goes a long way. Someone in the group, I really wish I remembered who, said that they leave post it notes in their kids lunch boxes. I thought, what a great idea! I started leaving post it notes for my wife that week.
I don’t write her a note every day. I tend to go in stretches where I do and stretches where I don’t. I have noticed that when I leave the notes we seem to get a long better and there is a little more love in the air around the house.
Here is my advice on loving your wife with sticky backed paper:
* Get mixed colors you think she’ll like, nothing is more drab than pastel yellow everywhere
* Buy brand name, they stick better and this isn’t a place to cheap out
* A black sharpie fine point will be your magic wand
* Stick them in different places, my wife loves when she discovers a sticky note randomly in her day
* You don’t need to quote Shakespeare, keep the notes short and sweet
* Quantity over quality, just say what you’re thinking and do it often
The questions I think you’re asking at this point are these:
1. Why are you telling me to use Post-It notes?
2. What do you / I write on them?
The most important question, why?
I write Post It notes for my wife and leave them in random places around the house because it makes her feel loved. It requires almost no time, money, or effort on my part and brings joy to my wife. How many things can you think of that check all of those boxes? When Sara see’s a note, she knows that I was thinking about her when she wasn’t around. She is reminded that she is important to me, and if I get the words right, it makes her feel special. Guys, give it a shot. Pull out an old pad of post it’s you have sitting in a drawer somewhere, grab a sharpie, write “I love you” on it, and stick it somewhere she’ll see it tomorrow. It’s that easy to make you’re wife smile and think you’re awesome.
Post it #2. When do I write it and what do I write?
When is completely up to you. You know your wife, I don’t. Personally, I try to leave her a. It’s daily. I have good streaks and bad streaks but that is my goal. Judge your own situation. Do it daily, weekly monthly, whatever works for you but do it consistently and do it more often than your gut is currently telling you to.
Lastly, what to write. Remember, the most important thing is that you took the time to write the note, what is on it is secondary. I would start with “I love you” and continue to write simple things. For example, tonight I wrote “you mean the world to me” and stuck it up on the cabinet in the kitchen. You can Google saying on what to write and I’ll put a few links at the bottom for you to get started. If you can, try to think of the cute little things that you say to each other or little moments that you remember. Just make them short, it’s amazing what you can do with
Writing Post It notes for your wife and putting them up around the house is one of the simplest things you can do that will make a big positive difference in your relationship.
In His Name,
Jonathan
I order my Post It’s on Amazon and use Smile to support a local school. You can order them here.
Here is a quick google search to get your creative juices flowing.